The itch to write

The ~~ideal~~ Real Parent

Do you really think the lady who says she can make all the meals, send kids to school / football / swimming practice all ON time and still have time to do her pedicure is telling you the whole truth. There are no such thing as an ideal parent . Scribe that into your head .Say this along with me " I'm a darn good mom who will no longer allow the “perfection” of others to dictate how I raise, feed, and educate my kids". Write that down and look at it everyday. So many of us want to buy into the myth of the super-parent who CAN do it all because we think that's how everyone else is.

The reality of being a parent isn’t spoken about enough . It's upsetting knowing that some people think we are "less of” a mother because we get frustrated with our children.

Our society expect us to never mess up, to raise perfect little citizens who are always happy, always healthy, always the smiling angels. Media and people have set standards which we THINK we have to meet to be fit to be called a mother. These expectations are suffocating and we beat ourselves up for it . We get overwhelmed and frustrated when we compare ourselves with the ideal parent.

We are all just trying our very best. We’ll fail at some things, but that’s okay. Our children need to see us failing and not having the answers for everything, so they know that it’s normal.
Because it IS normal.
This way in the future when he or she gets rejected in a job interview they will know that it's okay and will try again.

Are there days when the only thing your child eats is chocolate or junk food? Ryan drinks water like it's his medicine. His face expressions turn sour after every gulp. But the minute you show him a packet of chips his mouth will open wide like a piranha. Despite all this i somehow manage to keep a fixed grin on my face to make it seem like everything is okay, even though inside I'm screaming. I wish babies could tell us what's in their brain . Things would be so much easier . And there are some days when babies don't eat anything at all ( literally living only on oxygen days) and they become irritated because they are hungry yet they will only spit out anything you feed them. This leaves behind a crying baby with an empty stomach, wasted food,messy floor and crazy mom whose brain will burst like a volcano any minute. But Hang in there warrior. We do have our good days, and those always make it worth it.

All of us have times of doubts where we feel we are not the perfect parent. We all have taken refuge in the bathroom for some peace of mind. We might have binge eaten dark chocolate and chips just to drown our frustrations .It's completely normal if you just want your kids to just go to sleep. Do you feel guilty for having negative thoughts about being a stay-at-home mom when you are having a chaotic day? Well, let me tell you that it is completely normal to feel that way.
It's okay because we are humans; the love we have for our children is vast, but that does not mean we won’t have times of doubt in ourselves as parents. I keep asking God to help become a better version of me, not to help me be the ideal parent. God entrusted our children to us not because we are perfect, we leave the perfect to God and lean on him to provide what we need daily.
I think the key is not “You should enjoy every moment now” Rather it should be “You should cherish your precious children every single moment – the good, the bad, the beautiful and the ugly.” Because all too soon they will be grown and gone and you will miss them! None of them ever come with a re-wind or a re-do button. We’re all in this craziness together. No perfection allowed.

Whenever your children eats your head just take a moment out to think of all those who are longing for a child and undergoing massive amount of treatment & spending lakhs of money just to have a child. Count your blessings ladies.

Kids are special and well worth the lack of sleep and sometimes frustration ! Thousands of kids before ours have made it to adulthood despite running with scissors, and eating from the floor!
The days are sometimes LONG, I know. But the years are short.
You are not a terrible parent. You are a REAL parent. God will honor your efforts.

The post is meant for comfort/amusement. Reading this may help save your sanity – what little is left of it! : )